Not That Kind of Girl

Starred review from October 6, 2014
Reviewed by Rachel Deahl. Filmmaker (Tiny Furniture) and TV creator (Girls) Dunham has been compared to all manner of comic intellectual impresarios, from Woody Allen to Nora Ephron and Tina Fey. This makes it all the more delightful that Dunham mines her first book from an unexpected source: Helen Gurley Brown's Having It All, which she stumbled upon in a thrift store in college. Dunham hopes that her collection of personal essays will do for its intended readersâthe young and femaleâwhat the one-time Cosmopolitan editor-in-chief's 1982 guide did for her. Having It All is, Dunham admits, full of mostly dated and "bananas" adviceâon everything from dieting to man pleasingâbut it imparted an important takeaway: meek women can inherit success, love, and self-worth, if not the Earth. Dunham is not unlike these women (or "Mouseburgers," in Brown's words), who can, she explains, "triumph, having lived to tell the tale of being overlooked and underloved." She breaks her book into sections ("Love & Sex," "Body," "Work," etc.) and offers tales of her own experiences being overlooked and underloved. If that sounds corny or overly earnest, the essays that compose the book are neither. They're dark, discomforting, and very funny. Whether discussing her forays into yo-yo dieting (" âDiet' Is a Four-Letter Word") or the time she thinks she might have been raped ("Barry"), Dunham is expert at combining despair and humor. Describing a misanthropic ex, she writes: "His critical nature proved suffocatingâhe hated my skirts, my friends, and my work. He hated rom-coms and just plain coms." The book is filled with amusing phrases like this one, as Dunham delivers sadâand probably, for many readers, sadly familiarâtales of hating her body and trying too hard to make undeserving men love her. Dunham is an oddly polarizing figure in today's cultureâmaybe because she's too young and successful; maybe because she gets conflated her with Hannah Horvath, her self-involved character on Girls; or maybe simply because her detractors are louder than her fansâbut hopefully this won't keep readers away from this collection. It would be a shame, because the book is touching, at times profound, and deeply funny. It also addresses something that other female funny people of Dunham's stature do not. The myth, as Gurley Brown and others have laid it out, is that we can shed our Mouseburger selves to become something better. While Dunham is eager for that something better, she doesn't want to lose sight of the Mouseburger inside. This is one of the things she grapples with throughout these essays: how we become accepted and loved and popular, without casting aside, or trying to hide, the unloved, unpopular people we once were. In fact, Dunham seems to want to revel in the dark spacesâthe terrifying and awkward moments in lifeâwhich is pretty great. Not only does this provide her wonderful material, but it's an invigorating, refreshing slap in the face to a world that is so unwelcoming to all the amusing, sweet, smart Mouseburgers out there. (Sept. 30) Rachel Deahl is PW's News Director.

December 22, 2014
Filmmaker (Tiny Furniture) and TV creator and actress (Girls) Dunham writes about everything from work and love to dieting in this sharp and often salacious essay collection. The essays are funny and raw, but these qualities are hard to detect in the audio edition because Dunham gives a somewhat lackluster reading of her book. Her pacing is slow and restrained, which seems at odds with the tone of the essays. The result is somewhat unengaging, and the essays begin to bleed into each other. Occasionally Dunham impersonates the people she writes about—she gives a relationship expert a thick New York accent and puts on a low, dopey voice for some of the men she describes—livening up the performance a bit. A Knopf hardcover.